5 Signs You May Have a Serious Sex Addiction

In the bustling heart of New York City, we’re constantly surrounded by stimuli, with the topic of sex being no exception. Despite its prevalence, sex addiction remains a misunderstood concept for many. It’s not simply about having a high sex drive; it’s a condition that can take over your life, known in the clinical realm as ‘Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder.’ Recognizing the signs is the first step toward healing and control. The Modern Therapy Group is dedicated to shining a light on these shadowed issues and advocating for a comprehensive understanding and approach to treatment. Below, we discuss five signs you may have a serious sex addiction and delve deeper into what sex addiction truly entails.

What is Sex Addiction?

Before we examine the signs, it’s vital to understand what sex addiction is. Any particular type of sexual activity does not define sex addiction. Instead, it’s characterized by an individual’s intense and recurrent preoccupation with sexual thoughts, urges, and behaviors that they continue despite adverse consequences. These behaviors significantly impact various aspects of a person’s life, including relationships, career, and physical and emotional health. Although it’s not categorized exactly the same as substance-related addictions, the patterns and impacts are strikingly similar, indicating a loss of control and a continuation despite risks and damages.

Persistent Sexual Thoughts and Urges:

  • Constant fixation on sexual thoughts, fantasies, or urges that dominate your thinking, making it difficult to focus on routine tasks.
  • Significant periods spent in sexual fantasies and urges, often to the detriment of other important life activities.
  • Experiencing substantial distress or life impairment due to these incessant preoccupations.

Engaging in Risky Sexual Behavior:

  • A tendency to engage in sexual behaviors under risky or dangerous circumstances.
  • Seeking sexual encounters without considering the potential for physical harm or legal repercussions.
  • Consistently neglecting personal safety or the safety of others in pursuit of sexual gratification.

Failed Attempts to Stop or Control Behavior:

  • A history of repeated efforts to control, cut back, or stop the behavior, but none have been successful.
  • Experiencing withdrawal-like symptoms when the sexual activity is reduced.
  • A cycle of relapse and remorse, often with the self-promise of change.

Neglecting Responsibilities:

  • Frequent absenteeism or neglect of educational, work, or family obligations due to sexual activity.
  • A decline in attention or performance at work, school, or home.
  • Financial consequences stemming from expenses related to sex-related activities or products.

Continuation Despite Negative Consequences:

  • Persisting with compulsive sexual behavior despite adverse outcomes, such as broken relationships, loss of employment, or health risks.
  • A disregard for the damaging consequences of the behavior, focusing solely on achieving the sexual “high.”
  • Continued engagement in the behavior, even after experiencing emotional distress or depressive symptoms following the activities.

Understanding the Designation of Sex Addiction:

Although not officially classified as an addiction in DSM-5, ‘Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder’ is included in the ICD-11. It’s important to note that there’s a difference between having a high libido and suffering from sex addiction. The latter involves intense and uncontrollable sexual impulses and actions that lead to personal distress and life impairment. Because of its complex nature and varying degrees of severity, a professional diagnosis is crucial for identifying and treating this disorder.

Seeking Professional Help at Modern Therapy Group

Acknowledging you might have a problem is the first, courageous step toward reclaiming control of your life. If you see yourself or a loved one in these signs, professional assistance is crucial. Modern Therapy Group offers experienced therapists who provide a non-judgmental space to explore these issues, supporting your journey to recovery. Don’t let misconceptions or stigma prevent you from reclaiming your life. Contact us today to schedule a confidential consultation.


What causes sex addiction?

Sex addiction arises from a mix of physical, psychological, and environmental factors. Each individual’s situation is unique, making it essential to approach treatment on a case-by-case basis.

How is sex addiction treated?

Therapy, particularly cognitive-behavioral therapy, medication, lifestyle changes, and support groups are common methods. Personalized treatment plans are crucial for effective recovery.

Is sex addiction a sign of other mental health issues?

It can co-occur with other conditions such as depression, anxiety, or substance abuse. A comprehensive mental health evaluation can help in identifying coexisting issues.

Can relationships survive sex addiction?

With commitment to recovery, open communication, and therapy, relationships can recover and become even stronger.

How do I support a loved one with a sex addiction?

Education, open dialogue, setting healthy boundaries, and encouraging therapy while also maintaining your own mental health are essential steps.

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